15 Things To Stop Doing Today If You Want To Be Happy
Life should be about happiness, connection, fulfillment, green tea, naps, crystals, yoga, and celebration, but often we fill it with stress, negativity, judgment, mind games, self-pity, and jealousy. Does this sound familiar?
What if I told you that you could have a beautiful + happy life? Because you can. Too easily we pick up self-sabotaging habits and thought patterns that make it particularly unpleasant at times, but if you could stop doing those things, your life can be filled with wonderful moments.
So, if you are ready to have a happy + kind life, stop:
Just close your eyes, take 5 deep breaths and know that things will all work out. When you’re stressed, you send out a frantic and negative vibe and it rubs off on other people. The people close to you want you to be calm and happy. Nothing is ever as big of a deal as we make it.
2. Being busy.
Busy is something that can easily happen to you if you aren’t living consciously and being intentional in your decision making. Just because you’re busy, doesn’t mean everything you’re doing is important.
3. Spending your precious time with toxic people.
Don’t even waste your time, money, or energy on toxic people. You’re better than that. Life’s too short to spend time with negative people and people who don’t care about you.
4. Moving so fast.
Busy and important are very different. Also, I don’t want you to be blinded by busy and miss the important moments in your journey.
5. Letting societal norms, expectations, and pressures influence you.
If there is a societal norm that you just don't resonate with, don’t do it. Maybe you don't want a big fancy house with a big fancy car and a big fancy wardrobe and you want to spend your time, energy, and money on experiences over things. So do that! If society is pressuring you to have a “traditional” or "normal" life, forget them and live the life you want!
6. Spending money you don’t have.
It’s not fun to go into debt for material things or temporary pleasures. Set a budget, give yourself a little wiggle room, and stick to it. I know it's so much easier said than done, but if you think about what you truly value in life, then this can help change your spending habits.
Life is what you make it! Smile :)
8. Taking care of everyone else but yourself.
You can’t take care of others when you are depleted, unhappy and unfulfilled. Take time for yourself.
9. Believing that more is better.
We live in a culture of excess. More is not better. I know you’ve heard the saying “quality over quantity”, and well, it’s for real! Trust me. When you strip down to just the essentials in life, you will have so much more freedom and space to bring in people, emotions, memories, and things into your life that really light you up!
10. Letting your environment go.
De-clutter your home, car, and office a little every day or week. Even just spending 1 hour a week decluttering and getting rid of a few things in each room that no longer serve you will have you feeling so fresh and so clean! And speaking of clean, spend 10-15 minutes each day picking up and cleaning instead of doing it all on the weekends!
11. Ignoring your beautiful body.
Instead, get plenty of rest, drink lots of water, move your body and practice mindful eating. Then you can ensure you feel good and have the beautiful energy for the things you want to do.
12. Giving negative meaning.
Everything that happens in our life is a neutral experience. We are the ones that give it meaning. When something doesn’t go as planned, don’t chalk it up as a failure or a disaster. Give it a new meaning. Maybe it was a good learning experience and will help better shape the way you do things in the future.
13. Trying to be perfect.
There is no such thing as perfect, only real + authentic. Don’t worry about things not turning out the way you thought they would. It’s all fine and wonderful. Be grateful for the way things happen.
14. Feeling obligated.
This is a little similar to societal influences, but stop feeling obligated to do things that you don’t want to do. You don’t have to make a homemade dessert for the neighborhood gathering; store-bought is fine. You don’t have to make enough food for 24 people when you only have 5 people coming home for the holidays. If someone invites you to their wedding and you don't really want to go, don't feel like you HAVE to go. Stop feeling obligated.
The most important thing I want you to stop doing is forgetting. Stop forgetting how much love and joy you have in your life. Stop forgetting all the lovely and beautiful people you have in your life. Stop forgetting to count your incredible blessings in life. Take a step back and be thankful + grateful. Your life is beautiful.
Seems simple enough, right?
I’m here, right now, giving you permission to have your best life. Okay? All you need to do is begin your journey to a happy + kind life by following these guidelines.